“Act Like a Wife or Not?”  Ntando Duma Faces Cultural Backlash

Just a few months after South African media personality Ntando Duma tied the knot with Grammy-winning musician Unarine Rambani in a private traditional ceremony in Thohoyandou, Venda, social media is now buzzing with more than just congratulations.

A sharp statement making the rounds online has sparked intense debate:

“Ntando Duma Rambani must decide if she wants to behave like a married woman or not? 🤔 Because in VhaVenda culture, revealing your body like this is not accepted.”

This comment, shared widely on X (formerly Twitter) and Facebook, came after Ntando reportedly posted or was seen in a revealing outfit post-wedding, a look that some felt clashed with the expectations of a newly married Venda makoti (bride).

While many fans continue to celebrate the union as one of love and power, the tone on social media has taken a mixed turn. Some users argue that Ntando’s image and dressing style should evolve now that she’s married into a culturally grounded Venda family. Others, however, are defending her right to self-expression, claiming the criticism reeks of patriarchy and cultural policing.

What Happened at the Wedding?

Before the controversy erupted, Ntando and Unarine’s union was hailed as a beautiful blend of love and tradition. According to Zimoja, the couple hosted a private homecoming ceremony at Rambani’s family homestead. The event was rich in Venda customs, with strict invitations and an emphasis on heritage and symbolism.

Those who attended described the event as “heartfelt” and “elegant,” although the couple has yet to share official images. Insiders claim the ceremony reflected the couple’s deep respect for tradition, a contrast that has made Ntando’s post-wedding public image even more scrutinized.

A Culture Clash or Just Public Scrutiny?

The core of the online debate now revolves around what it means to be a married woman in Venda culture. Critics believe Ntando’s public appearance does not align with traditional expectations, while supporters argue that cultural identity evolves, especially when it intersects with celebrity, art, and modern womanhood.

Some Venda women online have expressed frustration with the judgment, noting that selective enforcement of cultural norms often targets women more than men.

What’s Next for Ntando and Unarine?

Despite the controversy, the power couple continues to enjoy public admiration. Ntando remains one of South Africa’s most dynamic media personalities, while Unarine Rambani is basking in international recognition as a Grammy-winning artist.

Their union marks a blending of modern African excellence with deep-rooted tradition, and while opinions may differ, one thing is clear: Ntando Duma Rambani is living life unapologetically, as both a public figure and a new bride navigating the expectations of two worlds.

By Yockshard Enyendi